by Vesna Zarkovic | 9:50 am

If you want to be happy the rest of your life, you need to make that call first. It’s a decision. It is the understanding that happiness is not destination but journey. It starts within YOU and your mindset.

Is it hard?

Not at all! It doesn’t take much to live happy life.  

First, you should learn to listen your gut, trust your feelings and love & respect your self. Feelings are our inner guidance and usually tell us where we need to be (or not to be!). If it doesn’t feel right – it is definitely not right for us.

I believe that our feelings are communication between our physical and non-physical part. So, if we carefully listen to – it will lead us where we feel good, secure and full filed. Feeling good is, actually, destination.

Behavioral scientists have spent a lot of time studying what makes us happy. We know happiness can predict health and

longevity, and happiness scales can be used to measure social progress and the success of public policies. But happiness isn’t something that just happens to you. Everyone has the power to make small changes in our behavior, our surroundings and our relationships that can help set us on course for a happier life.

It all starts in our


Negative thoughts are usually results of previous experience (trauma, bullying, betrayal) and should makes us cautious for further actions. Therefor, we should practice


Conquer Negative Thinking

by challenging negative thoughts. If we faced some failure – we should learn from it, embrace it and keep going forward.

Negative thinking happens to all of us, but if we recognize it and challenge that thinking, we are taking a big step toward a happier life.


Control breathing (or meditate)

Studies have found, for example, that breathing practices can help reduce symptoms associated with anxiety, insomnia, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and attention deficit disorder. By focusing on deep breathing you will clear your mind and detach yourself from thinking.

Studies show that in the minutes right after meditating, we experience feelings of calm and contentment, as well as heightened awareness and empathy. And, research even shows that regular meditation can permanently rewire the brain to raise levels of happiness.


Rewrite your story

Some research suggests that writing in a personal journal for 15 minutes a day can lead to a boost in overall happiness and well-being, in part because it allows us to express our emotions, be mindful of our circumstances and resolve inner conflicts. By writing and then editing our own stories, we can change our perceptions of ourselves and identify obstacles that stand in the way of our personal well-being. Numerous studies show that writing and rewriting your story can move you out of your negative mindset and into a more positive view of life.


Get moving

Take, at least, short walk. You will see (or meet) other people moving, nature movements and changes, breath beneficial fresh air. Or you can just put some favorite music and dance in your own house. Or do some few minutes tasks (clean the dishes, hang up a jacket, remove boxes or else from living area, answer the e-mail, file a paper) to make some order in your living space.


Spend time with positive mindset people

Positive, happy behavior is contagious, as well as negative one. Which one you choose?

Each additional happy friend increases your chance of happiness by about 9 percent (Yale researchers concluded). Surround with people who understand you, who share similar values and beliefs you have, create your own micro-universe and enjoy it.


Be grateful for everything you already have!

Move your focus from things you don’t have and haven’t accomplished (yet) to things you DO have and accomplished but taking it for granted. Small things. Ordinary things. Just for a while.

My mornings start with gratitude that I’m awaken, for health of my kids, family and my own, for cozy bed, cozy place to live in, all good relationships in my life and so on. There are plenty of stuff you should be grateful and happy about. Try it! You will be amazed by good feeling all day long.


Plan a trip

It helps even if you don’t actually take one!

As opposed to actually taking a holiday, simply planning a vacation or break from work can improve our happiness.

If you can’t take the time for a vacation right now, or even a night out with friends, put something on the calendar–even if it’s a month or a year down the road. Then, whenever you need a boost of happiness, remind yourself about it.


Reconsider ‘inherited’ beliefs that not serve you

We are all raised in certain manners and accepted lot of beliefs and ‘values’ without questioning. It was easier.

Our beliefs unconsciously control the way we think and respond. Identifying and clearing these believes that no longer serve us – can be truly empowering and healing, opening new frontiers of freedom you never dreamed were possible. Sometimes you can suffer from anxiety or depression for no real reason. This is sometimes from an inherited trauma in the family tree that can affect the way someone responds to stress.

Question your beliefs, from time to time. Especially when you feel bad or stuck. Our deepest beliefs determine our every day reality.


Be who you are and don’t compare yourself to others

Celebrate your uniqueness! There are no two exactly the same persons in this world. Diversity made evolution to happen. People who thought differently than majority made discoveries which brought us here today!

Give your self permition to go too far and reach your dreams!

So, there are plenty of reasons to be happy. Also, there are plenty of (simple) ways to be happy.

If you want to be happy the rest of your life – you should make that decision NOW. All the tips for happy life won’t work until YOU decide it to work. Happiness begins within YOU.

Move, go out, enjoy the nature, enjoy your friends, read a book on the park’s bench, take a deep breath and live happy life.

You can!

You must!

*Feel free to drop a comment and share your thoughts



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hi, abraham Lincoln once said “man is about as happy as he makes up his mind to be.  the world has many wonderful things to explore. People spend too much time comparing themselves to others, and feeling sorry for themselves. That is a choice, at the same time they could choose to be grateful for the many blessings. It’s really about attitude more than anything else.

Jan 10.2020 | 03:39 pm


    Couldn’t agree more with you and A.Lincoln 🙂

    Thank you for stopping by and commenting!

    Jan 10.2020 | 04:19 pm


Hello, I really want to first appreciate your effort in putting this great website together and writing this article. Been happy is something that has to come from the inside and then we work towards it. Our ability to conquer negative thinking plays a large role in determining our state of happiness in life. I am definitely planing a trip

Jan 10.2020 | 03:43 pm


    Me too! Trip to mountain, with my family 🙂 Can’t wait..

    Thank you for your kind comment

    Jan 10.2020 | 04:21 pm


Happiness is a thing of the mind, once you decided in your heart that you want to be happy, nothing in this world whatsoever will ever stand the test of happiness in your life.
And to be happy you have to work on your self esteem, having a low self esteem always brings sadness because you will never believe anything good could work out for you.
A happy mind is a faithful heart.

Jan 10.2020 | 03:47 pm


    I couldn’t agree more, Carol. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

    Jan 14.2020 | 12:11 pm


Happiness is a thing of the mind, once you decided in your heart that you want to be happy, nothing in this world whatsoever will ever stand the test of happiness in your life.
And to be happy you have to work on your self esteem, having a low self esteem always brings sadness because you will never believe anything good could work out for you.
A happy mind is a faithful heart.

Jan 10.2020 | 03:48 pm


    Thank you, Carol, for your kind comment. I’m glad we share the same attitude about happiness.



    Jan 10.2020 | 04:22 pm


Thank you Vesna for a wonderful post about meditation. Today, stress is a silent killer of modern times because people cope with all sorts of problems. is that you are not aware that you are meditating. What the Dalai Lama said is the best meditation is sleep. Therefore, we must do meditation as if we are sleeping, but we must be aware of what is happening in us.

Jan 10.2020 | 03:51 pm


    Yes, to some of us – meditation is the one of the ways to raise self awareness, to clear our thoughts and open our hearts. Everyone should find what works for them, particularly.

    Thanks for commenting!

    Jan 10.2020 | 04:25 pm


Very motivating to read! You have some very simple hands on techniques anyone can begin with right now. Recently, I started meditating with a goal of just 5-10 minutes every day where I’m trying to focus only on my breathing. It’s actually pretty difficult to stay focused and not letting your mind wander off. There’s a lot of truth in what you write that it’s your own decision to be happy but it’s not always something you control yourself. Life happens, as the the saying goes, and in those situations I find it extremely helpful to surround yourself with as caring people as possible. 

Here’s to happiness

Jan 10.2020 | 03:53 pm


    Exactly, Jonas, life happens and it’s on us how we are going to react to it 🙂

    Thanks for commenting

    Jan 10.2020 | 04:29 pm

Shanta Rahman

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful article with us .Happiness lives in people’s minds .And to understand this heart, you have to understand your feelings, who should believe in love and, above all, respect yourself. Feeling is an internal matter that can be both physical and physical .Each of us should listen to our minds. Each of us has to understand what my mind wants and I will be happy to do something. If you want to be happy, you will be a little happier and you never need to live a luxurious life for that happiness. I find Get moving  and Plan a trip, two more to look for happiness and I find happiness there .I will definitely look into finding other happiness on your website then other things .I will definitely share it with my friends.

Jan 10.2020 | 04:07 pm


    Thank you, Shanta, for your kind comment. I am sure you have already lot of stuff to be happy about and you will find much more..

    Wishing you the best!

    Jan 10.2020 | 04:32 pm


Hey, I know via your article that each additional happy friend increases our chance of happiness by about 9 percent. It is really very awesome for me. Now I always go my happy friends to increase my happiness. In my views comparision is very bad habit . I am not comparing myself with others. If anyone want to be happy the rest of their life – They have to make that decision NOW.

Jan 11.2020 | 06:41 am


    Thank you for your kind comment, Parveen. I’m glad you found my post useful and inspiring.


    Jan 14.2020 | 11:48 am

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