If you want to be happy the rest of your life, you need to make that call first. It’s a decision. It is the understanding that happiness is not destination but journey. It starts within YOU and your mindset.
Is it hard?
Not at all! It doesn’t take much to live happy life.
First, you should learn to listen your gut, trust your feelings and love & respect your self. Feelings are our inner guidance and usually tell us where we need to be (or not to be!). If it doesn’t feel right – it is definitely not right for us.
I believe that our feelings are communication between our physical and non-physical part. So, if we carefully listen to – it will lead us where we feel good, secure and full filed. Feeling good is, actually, destination.
Behavioral scientists have spent a lot of time studying what makes us happy. We know happiness can predict health and
longevity, and happiness scales can be used to measure social progress and the success of public policies. But happiness isn’t something that just happens to you. Everyone has the power to make small changes in our behavior, our surroundings and our relationships that can help set us on course for a happier life.
It all starts in our
Negative thoughts are usually results of previous experience (trauma, bullying, betrayal) and should makes us cautious for further actions. Therefor, we should practice
Conquer Negative Thinking
by challenging negative thoughts. If we faced some failure – we should learn from it, embrace it and keep going forward.
Negative thinking happens to all of us, but if we recognize it and challenge that thinking, we are taking a big step toward a happier life.
Control breathing (or meditate)
Studies have found, for example, that breathing practices can help reduce symptoms associated with anxiety, insomnia, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and attention deficit disorder. By focusing on deep breathing you will clear your mind and detach yourself from thinking.
Studies show that in the minutes right after meditating, we experience feelings of calm and contentment, as well as heightened awareness and empathy. And, research even shows that regular meditation can permanently rewire the brain to raise levels of happiness.
Rewrite your story
Some research suggests that writing in a personal journal for 15 minutes a day can lead to a boost in overall happiness and well-being, in part because it allows us to express our emotions, be mindful of our circumstances and resolve inner conflicts. By writing and then editing our own stories, we can change our perceptions of ourselves and identify obstacles that stand in the way of our personal well-being. Numerous studies show that writing and rewriting your story can move you out of your negative mindset and into a more positive view of life.
Take, at least, short walk. You will see (or meet) other people moving, nature movements and changes, breath beneficial fresh air. Or you can just put some favorite music and dance in your own house. Or do some few minutes tasks (clean the dishes, hang up a jacket, remove boxes or else from living area, answer the e-mail, file a paper) to make some order in your living space.
Spend time with positive mindset people
Positive, happy behavior is contagious, as well as negative one. Which one you choose?
Each additional happy friend increases your chance of happiness by about 9 percent (Yale researchers concluded). Surround with people who understand you, who share similar values and beliefs you have, create your own micro-universe and enjoy it.
Be grateful for everything you already have!
Move your focus from things you don’t have and haven’t accomplished (yet) to things you DO have and accomplished but taking it for granted. Small things. Ordinary things. Just for a while.
My mornings start with gratitude that I’m awaken, for health of my kids, family and my own, for cozy bed, cozy place to live in, all good relationships in my life and so on. There are plenty of stuff you should be grateful and happy about. Try it! You will be amazed by good feeling all day long.
Plan a trip
It helps even if you don’t actually take one!
As opposed to actually taking a holiday, simply planning a vacation or break from work can improve our happiness.
If you can’t take the time for a vacation right now, or even a night out with friends, put something on the calendar–even if it’s a month or a year down the road. Then, whenever you need a boost of happiness, remind yourself about it.
Reconsider ‘inherited’ beliefs that not serve you
We are all raised in certain manners and accepted lot of beliefs and ‘values’ without questioning. It was easier.
Our beliefs unconsciously control the way we think and respond. Identifying and clearing these believes that no longer serve us – can be truly empowering and healing, opening new frontiers of freedom you never dreamed were possible. Sometimes you can suffer from anxiety or depression for no real reason. This is sometimes from an inherited trauma in the family tree that can affect the way someone responds to stress.
Question your beliefs, from time to time. Especially when you feel bad or stuck. Our deepest beliefs determine our every day reality.
Be who you are and don’t compare yourself to others
Celebrate your uniqueness! There are no two exactly the same persons in this world. Diversity made evolution to happen. People who thought differently than majority made discoveries which brought us here today!
Give your self permition to go too far and reach your dreams!
So, there are plenty of reasons to be happy. Also, there are plenty of (simple) ways to be happy.
If you want to be happy the rest of your life – you should make that decision NOW. All the tips for happy life won’t work until YOU decide it to work. Happiness begins within YOU.
Move, go out, enjoy the nature, enjoy your friends, read a book on the park’s bench, take a deep breath and live happy life.
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