“Body image issues” usually start to appear along with warmer weather, when we’re slipping into more revealing clothes. Then we start to feel guilty about what and how much we ate, how much we worked out (or didn’t work out), amount of time we spent being passive (instead of just walking, for ex.), etc.
Of course, image of our self is strongly caused by current Beauty Standards we all excepted without questioning.
Beauty Standards Around the World
What is the standard of “perfect body”? Well, it depends WHO you ask!
Perceptions of beauty can have a deep and lasting cultural impact on both women and men. What you need is to better understand potentially unrealistic standards of beauty, realizing how such pressures vary around the world. As you travel the world, beauty standards actually change. What is consider the MUST of beauty in one country my be considered average or even ugly or ‘not acceptable’ in another. Also, these standards change over time. Decades ago, the most common definition of ‘beautiful’ was more curvaceous. We have transitioned from that to being slim. Than transitioned again from that and added “healthy slim” – slim but muscular physique.
Majority of people connect food and body figure. Lot of Americans exclude carbs or sugar from their nutrition, in order to stay slim and “healthy”. Put all the blame to food type. Well, I strongly disagree to totally exclude any food type. It’s not about WHAT you eat but about the quantity and BALANCE of all type nutrition.
For ex. Italian cooking is based on carbs and yet, Italian women have long been considered beautiful. They take care of themselves, embrace life and enjoy all aspects of it. French women are all about natural beauty but being fashion forward. British women tend to prefer a more aristocratic look of slenderness. Also, don’t worry as much about getting older. They view these changes as signs of maturity and wisdom. Brazilians embrace the look of a more curvaceous body for years. Maori women in New Zealand consider face tattoos a true sign of beauty. And so on.
The point is – we all have our own opinions because we are all beautifully different! We need to get away from narrow and often unattainable standards that leave so many women around the world dealing with self esteem issues.
Learning Love Yourself first
To learn how to love your body you must go deeply in your self, first. We are much more than our bodies, agree? As human beings, essential elements we are consist of:
* Soul/Spirit (nonphysical part)
* Body (physical part)
Order of these 3 major parts by priorities is changing when we are growing. (This is my exact priority order at present moment) As we get mature, almost none of us would put body prior to mind or soul because we know better! We are beautiful mixture of our beliefs, attitudes, emotions and unique characteristics.
But, as we evolving and learning – we should feel comfortable and fit in our bodies which present all of our inner world. Every person is beautiful if she/he wants to be! Until the certain age – we are all beautiful, after the certain age – our inner beauty comes out. People who are progressive and love their selves, people with beautiful souls are beautiful in every age 🙂
Don’t compare your appearance to others! Be inspired by others who’s values you appreciate but create your own values! Don’t compare your body to others! Embrace your own body as a part of you, part which needs a lot of care & love by you.
Focus on health and feeling well
Focus on the way being healthy makes you feel and what it gives you. Feed your body nourishing food so that you constantly feel your best. Remove worries of disease and poor health. Exercise if you like, to relieve daily stress, to fight anxiety, to feel great. Meditate if you like, to connect more with your emotions, to see the bigger picture, to obtain inner peace.
Do the self talks
Treat your self with the highest respect. Practice self talks (looking at the mirror, if possible). Afirmate and repeat phrases which celebrate the best of who you are. Talk to your inner child. Encourage him/her.
Be grateful and think positive thoughts
Learn to release negative thoughts about your body and focus on the good things that it brings you every day. Be grateful for being able to walk, or run, or dance, or simply moving your body parts (there are people who are not able to do all that, unfortunately). If you work out, be grateful for all baby steps and accomplishments. If you don’t work out (like my self 🙂 ) you can dance out! Raising your gratitude is the first step to enjoying your life as it is.
Love yourself and the rest will sort it out
By recognizing and releasing negative thoughts, celebrating your efforts and achievements, telling positive affirmations to yourself, reading books and contents that interest you, by removing focus from all worries that bother you (worries won’t make any good) and focus on potential solutions – will make your first step of continuous self care. That doesn’t mean that you are become self obsessed, on the contrary, it should raise self awareness and self love.Once you begin to treat yourself with the respect and care, the habits needed for physical transformation will develop naturally.
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